Sunday, 26 April 2025 - "Day after reconciliation?"

I'm not sure this is the right title, but it's my blog, my  decision :). After my divorce, my brother, (nearly 10 years younger than me), decided he would rather have a relationship with my ex and her mastubator, than with me. And that's where our relationship ended. No problem for me then, as I was in turmoil, having lost my wife, after 26 years married, my relationship with my brother was not high on the list of must have's / must salvage. In fact, next time we "spoke" was also at Giovanni's wedding. After that, only when we had a birthday function for my mom, if he came up for it. Very cool, just hello, how are you ...and move on.

Again, it didn't phase me, and I didn't stress the fact. It was so obvious that he wasn't about to change his mind though, as even though he would come twice a year to visit my mom, meaning he would be 1.5km from my home, for around 4 or 5 days at a time, he wouldn't even let me know he was here, never mind come and see me! Again, no skin off my teeth.

My sister (bless her) is always trying to restore family ties, and had on several occasions asked me if  I had tried to contact him. No was the honest answer, and I explained that it actually didn't matter to me.

Anyway, he came up again this past week - got here Easter Monday, and stayed till Friday afternoon. No contact. My sister informed me that she would be having lunch with him and his wife on Friday at around 12. Would I want to join them? Ahh, no, and I'm at work till 2 pm anyway. She said, well if they still at the lunch at 2, she would let me know, and I could joint them for coffee maybe? I said I would see how things went.....

Friday 12h30, I let the staff leave early, as it's payday, they were unfairly stressed by getting paid late, and I'm tired! I don't contact my sister. She calls at 2. Am I coming? I wasn't planning to, but just reply b asking if they were expecting me, and she confirmed that they were. So I went.

He's looking good, as is his wife. We had a civil chat, mostly about his grandchildren, and mine - they had been to visit mine, I think it's the first time ever they have gone to visit at the house.

And then they left, as they were driving to his brother-in-law to sleep over before the drive home the next day. My sister was very chuffed with the situation, and even thanked me for turning up.

My opinion, it was nice to see them, see that he's fine. But other than that, I'm not going to make any big moves to rebuild our past. He's still supporting the losing team, which means I don't need them in my life.

That's life - at least I have blood friends who mean more to me, and who care more for me.