Monday, 31 March 2025

This was a difficult weekend.

From Friday, and especially on Saturday, I was stressing because of the fact that I have not heard from Giovanni for 4 weeks. My heart was telling me to call / message him, but I didn't. I also knew his mother was visiting, so didn't want to just drive through to see him. Saturday was a long hard day. I also considered cancelling going to the Celebration lunch on Sunday, as I felt I wasn't going to fit in anyway. But I didn't, as I had told Luciano I would be there for him. Sometime Saturday he calls me to say it's a fancy restaurant, and I can't just wear a T-Shirt as I usually do. No problem I say, I'll wear a shirt. Kind of felt like the "step parent who needs to be included" again. 

Anyway, Come Sunday morning, and I ditch the customary jeans for a paid of Chino's, and don a beautiful blue pinstripes long sleeved shirt, and exchange the slops for a nice pair of leather black shoes. I look like I'm on my way to a wedding/ or funeral! Damn, but I clean up well!

I'm first the the venue, so get a seat at the bar and order my usual. About 15 minutes later, the prospective in-laws arrive. I have only met them once before, the day Luciano and Tayla moved in together, and that day I had long hair, was sweating like a stuck pig, and was covered in sawdust from modifying their headboard! Not a good first impression, but who cares!

This time round, I was looking proper! And felt good about it. We chatted a bit, then Luciano, Tayla, Giovanni and their mother arrived. A big hello, kiss and long hug from Giovanni says he missed me / isn't ignoring me / doing what's expected from him! Pick one - I'm going for missed me. A hello from Luciano, a long hug from Tayla. And nothing from their mother.

Now for a bit of background - since the divorce, I have made a point of it to be friendly to their mother. Whenever we have been at the same place (one of their houses for a function) I have always gone over and greeted her. I wanted to show my boys the right thing to do. But yesterday I thought, let's see if she comes to say hello, she did arrive after me after all.

Nothing - no surprise though. She obviously knows my opinion around their  decision to cut all ties with Giovanni's wife, and so I fall into the same category now. No problem, I look like a million bucks, she looks like shit! Go figure!

After the lunch, which ended late, Luciano, Tayla, and the boys mother had to ride with me as Giovanni had left earlier, and they had travelled together. As I was going in the right direction to visit my grandchildren and daughter-in-law, it was okay.

Arrived safe, said goodbye to Luciano and Tayla, and she couldn't even say thanks for the ride. No problem, I do what I do. Be the better person they said!

At Tara's house the kids were already bathed and ready for bed, but when Nonno arrives, all the rules get broken! So, they wanted something to snack on, we kicked ball around the yard a bit, Tara was not in a good space, and when I asked what's wrong she started to cry. This makes me so mad. Said she had not had a good day.

Chatting a bit later, she said that after what's been going on, she feels she can't be part of my family anymore. This stuck deep into my heart, but I told her I understand - and I do. Luciano and Tayla and her mother-in-law have had no contact with her since Tara and Giovanni separated. Basically, like their mothers family tend to do, they have picked sides, and only managed to fuck up more than was broken already. Because even though Tara was trying to work on reconciling, now she feels she shouldn't, as she does not want those people in her life anymore. Way to go - fucking morons! I have kept up my relationship with Tara, as she is my daughter, and the mother of my grandchildren. My sister has done the same. Why do these other morons think they better then her, or the right thing to do is to cut her off? Fuck, what are they going to do when Giovanni goes to Las Vegas in a few weeks time for 8 weeks? By rights, she doesn't  have to let her kids go anywhere, not the boys mother, not to Luciano, nothing. And that will drive a bigger wedge between them.

They think they clever. this shit is going to come back to bite them bad!

Today I sent a message to Luciano telling him we have to talk. I am again going to address this issue with him, and tell him I expect him to contact Tara, apologise for cutting her off, and see if he can restore some semblance of a family relationship. I expect he's going to push back and refuse, at which time I will have to make some serious decisions of my own with regards my relationship with my sons.

This is going to be a big storm for sure.