Monday, 12 May 2025 - The feedback story
Further to my last post, I got up Saturday feeling okay. Had a shower, decided to have a shave, and trimmed the moustache. Then I went for a haircut.
Looking and feeling much better, I left for the party. On the way I said my prayers, as I usually do, and asked God to still my mind, and control my anxiety and be with me.
First frustration was at the gates to the complex. I have access as a permanent visitor via an app, which decided to not work anymore. It took me nearly 20 minutes to get in, and only after asking Luciano to send me an invite.
Get to the clubhouse where the party is taking place, and I see I arrived at the same time as Tara, my daughter (in-law), and my grandkids! Great, she carries the baby, her dad carries the box of stuff, I walk with my two bigger grandchildren, holding their hands, one on either side, and I feel like a million bucks!
We get to the table, and no one else is there. Now it's like 5 to 11, party starts at 11. Go figure. Eventually Giovanni arrives with his mother in tow. I'm calm, relaxed. No greetings exchanged. But all good. Then Luciano arrived with Tayla. And slowly the others invited. Not a lot of us, I think about 10 adults and my 3 grandchildren, and one other boy. We order drinks, stand / sit around chatting. At some point the ex is holding the baby, and something was irritating her, to I mention it to the ex, and she sorted it out. Yup, I spoke to her, and it was okay.
A little later, I had to aske her again to do something for the baby, and she did. No problem.
We ordered meals, all ate, had the sing song, ate cake, sat around chatting, etc. The ex was first to leave, don't know why, and she went around the table saying her goodbyes, and as she passed behind me the bumped my arm and said "Bye", and walked on. I said bye. And that was it.
My prayers were answered. I was calm, had a great time with the family and friends. And showed my kids, once again, that we can move past certain incidents, and move on. No matter the situation, we are bigger than our earthly challenges.
Afterwards I went to Tara's home, and unloaded a bookshelf I had restored / refurbished for her. I gave Tara a Mother's day gift, and explained I wouldn't be visiting again the Sunday. I spent some more time playing with the two bigger grandkids, and then went home.
So, all's well that ends well. Thanks for caring.
Ah, man....A lump in my throat and a tear shed. What a great day for you!! Difficult to think why the ex was so "friendly" and left early. Maybe she was feeling embarrassed about the policy and just sensed that she shouldn't bring it up or let it come to the surface, because you would have been ready for her.... Whatever. It worked out for the best for everyone and you had a great day with the Grandies!!! Much love...
ReplyDeleteI think she left early to get ready to go to some music event in JHB that evening. I know Luciano and his lady, and some friends were going, so maybe she was as well. Giovanni wasn't - he's like me on that - too many people, too loud, we don't drink....etc. Friendly - well, she didn't sense any animosity with me, and maybe, in a small way, she was leaving sleeping dogs alone.....Whatever, the day was brilliant!
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